These phrases and words are very arbitrary- let’s dissect the words “Top” and “Bottom” from a colloquial sense to comprehend what people really mean by labeling people as such.Ī Bottom: a person who enjoys being penetrated during sexual activity.īeing a bottom has been stigmatized in and out of the gay community for quite a long time. Statements such as the one above, “Oh my god, he’s such a bottom” or “Just what a sexy top” suppose so much about someone. In conjunction with applying such shortcuts, people often participate by sticking with such shortcuts via activities and personality traits. So how exactly does one determine whether or not someone is a high, bottom, versatile or none of the above mentioned? It’s quite common for humans to rely on heuristics to shortcut our way through life things such as stereotypes and profiling are ways we determine, in a moment, whether or not someone will probably be worth our time. Phrases like this speak to this precise concern. Sex positions have grown to be an identity rather than choice of how one loves sexual pleasure. Sex positions are no longer just what someone enjoys doing in the bedroom, but is now a way to determine how one should bring themselves. Actually, what one does in the bedroom in worn like badge or a sticker so that everyone knows upon the first meeting who (what) they’re meeting. In either case, things seem to always boil down to what someone loves to do in the bedroom. This, depending on your perspective, could be a good or a negative thing. However, in the gay community there seems a specified offer breaker which, in my opinion, limits the choices for a potential mate. For some, it’s smoking as well as for others it could be something petty like snoring or chewing too loudly. When it comes to relationships, everyone has their deal breakers. Sex Positions Politics: Stereotypes in the gay community